For a large part of my life I have felt anxious. At certain
times more so than others. It was always just kind of there and I accepted it
as part of who I was or as normal. But the older I get the more I am starting
to ask questions, like why am I feeling this way? What exactly is it that is
making me feel this way? What am I so scared of? What if it happened... Would
it be as bad as I feel it would be? And what can I do to help myself address
these feelings or situations that bring about these feelings when they come up?
{What makes us think
and feel the things we do? What can we do about it?}
These are interesting questions! Excited to uncover what
might really be going on under these thought and feelings. We will be looking
at scientifically and biblically supported ways of addressing these thought and
feelings. Lets get started :)
{The Root} :
Where does the anxiety originate from?
What we fear {what happened to cause fear?}
For example, I tend to feel anxious around groups of people
that I don't know. I believe God has helped me to trace that fear back to when
I was younger and something embarassing happened to me in front of a large
group of people. Now when in certain unstable feeling situations where I don't
know the people around me I feel afraid of them judging me and rejecting me
without really knowing me. The uncertainty of the situation and possibility of
being hurt again makes me feel anxious.
What we believe {about ourselves, about others}
Using my example again, I am believing that others are
watching me and judging my every move in those moments. That people are looking
for the places where they can find something "wrong" with me to use
as ammunition. I am also believing that what others say about me can define me
or it says something about who I am.
What are roots that you may have? It can be hard to look at
them for sure but once we do there is freedom in that! I challenge you to write
it down, what are you afraid of and what are you believing about yourself
and/or others?
{Feelings} -
Results of our thoughts, fears and beliefs
The feelings of anxiety can often distract us from what
caused it in the first place because they can be very uncomfortable at times.
But it is comforting to know that these feelings associated with anxiety are
directly effected by our thoughts and the great news is that we get to CHOOSE
our thoughts and beliefs. And I truly believe that a thought or belief can
trump a fear anyday when applied to our lives regularly!
Here's where the fun part begins :) I have applied many of
the things I am about to share to my life and I
can say for sure that they work!
{Challenge Your Fears & Beliefs} - what would really happen?
This is actually a form of therapy called CBT (Cognitive
Behavior Therapy) that has had wonderful results in patients' thoughts and
brain activity. My friend Heather brought this concept up to me a while back
and the times I have used it it has helped so much (not to mention it has been
proven to change brain activity :) ). The goal of CBT is to look at situations that cause distress
and to develop "more realistic interpretations of events." Many of our
fears and anxieties may be more distorted in our minds than we realize. How
freeing to see a situation for what it really is and not what we have perceived
it to be :)
"Scientific studies of CBT have demonstrated its
usefulness for a wide variety of mental illnesses including mood disorders, anxiety
disorders, personality disorders, eating disorders, substance abuse disorders,
sleep disorders and psychotic disorders. Studies have shown that CBT actually changes
brain activity in people with mental illnesses who receive this treatment,
suggesting that the brain is actually improving its functioning as a result of
engaging in this form of therapy. CBT has been shown to be as useful as
antidepressant medications for some individuals with depression and may be superior in preventing relapse
of symptoms. Patients receiving CBT for depression are encouraged to
schedule positive activities into their daily calendars in order to increase
the amount of pleasure they experience. In addition, depressed patients learn how to
change (“restructure”) negative thought patterns in order to interpret their
environment in a less negatively-biased way. As regular sleep has been
found to be very important in both depression and bipolar disorder, therapists
will also target sleeping patterns to improve and regulate sleep schedules with
their patients. Studies indicate that patients who receive CBT in addition to
treatment with medication have better outcomes than patients who do not receive
CBT as an additional treatment. CBT is also a useful treatment for anxiety disorders. Patients
who experience persistent panic attacks are encouraged to test out beliefs they
have related to such attacks, which can include specific fears related
to bodily sensations, and to develop more realistic responses to their
experiences. This is beneficial in decreasing both the frequency and intensity
of panic attacks. Patients who experience obsessions and compulsions are guided
to expose themselves to what they fear in a safe and controlled therapeutic
environment. Beliefs surrounding their fears (of contamination, illness,
inflicting harm, etc.) are identified and changed to decrease the anxiety
connected with such fears." - from the National Alliance on Mental Illness
So, our next step is to ask ourselves... What would actually
happen if_________________<insert the thing that causes you distress and/or
anxiety here>? Was it not as bad as you have anticipated?
What is the truth that was revealed when you asked this
question?
Has your perception changed?
{Apply Truth}
Whether we are young or older we each need to know the truth
about who we are. Then when these fears arise we have been equipped to perceive
the situation for what it really is and through truth we will be able to KNOW
who we are. These truths can not be changed by anything that we do or anything
that someone may do to us that is hurtful. We have a firm foundation, not
routed in perceptions and wrong beliefs but in truth.
Who do you say you are?
I can tell you these things about you without a doubt in my mind
-
* You are loved by God
* You have a unique and special purpose here
* You are wonderfully made
How does this compare to what you believe about yourself?
Believe me friend, even though they don't feel true at times
{believe me, I understand} we can CHOOSE to say I KNOW these things are true
about me. I KNOW that I am loved by God. I KNOW that I am unique and have a
special purpose here. I KNOW that I am wonderfully made. We can know these
things are true because they are written to us in God's Word (which is a lot
like a love story - explaining who we really are and how God came to save us).
Another truth that we can look at is who do we believe God
is?
Believing in His goodness, His love, His presence and what
He has done for me has been so freeing. During my most difficult time of
anxiety after our son Elijah's birth it was using scriptures to remind myself
of who I am to God and who God is and has been to me that brought me up and out
of what felt like an impossible situation. By His power I came out of it and
began enjoying everyday life again :)
Here is my list of scriptures, thoughts and quotes from this
time that I saved to my I Phone that I would open up and look at whenever I
felt anxious and can now share with you :)
{Scriptures, Thoughts
& Quotes – Encouragement During Times of Anxiety}
“Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for
me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:16
“Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't
be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” Luke 12:17
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in
trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the
mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and
the mountains quake with their surging.” Psalm 46:1-3
The Father will only give you what is good! - We can pray
with confidence.
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for
I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my
righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
Thank you that you love me so much that there is nothing I
have to hide from you out of shame... Even unbelief. - Me
"The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who
saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke
you, but will rejoice over you with singing." Zephaniah 3:17
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of
my heart and my portion forever.” Psalm 73:26
“Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill
his promises to her!" Luke 1:45
“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the
world, but to save the world through him.” John 3:17
“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm,
then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.”
Galatians 5:1
"You get up and decide you are going to be in agreement
with God!" - Unknown
"God is faithful, by whom you were called, into the
fellowship of His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord." 1 Corinthians 1:9
God cannot be evil or make plans for evil - it is
impossible. He is good and that cannot and will not ever change! I felt God
reveal this to me this morning and today in Ann Voskamp’s book One Thousand
Gifts she wrote: "A good God plans everything. Everything. So a good God
can only... Make plans for good? He only gives good gifts? A thing of evil
cannot be created by a good God?" Yes
"Rest and receive" - Jesus Calling
"Any created thing of which I am amazed, it is the
glimpse of His face to which I bow down. Do I have eyes to see it’s Him and not
the thing?" - Ann Voskamp
"If I can give thanks for the good things, the hard
things, the absolute everything, I can enter the gates of glory. Living in His
presence is fullness of joy- and seeing shows the way in." - Ann Voskamp One Thousand Gifts
"His love had invited me into this part of the answer -
wouldn't He lead on into the rest?" - Ann Voskamp One Thousand Gifts. Yes!
I can trust God!
"I have come for you my child :)". "The rest
I will also do!"
"I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice,
and no one will take your joy from you." – Jesus J John 16:22
“Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid.
The LORD, the LORD himself, is my strength and my defense; he has become my
salvation." Isaiah 12:22
“We are already citizens of heaven”, live as citizens of
heaven :) - Pastor Toomer, Transit Church
"Here lies another day. During which I have had eyes,
ears, hands. And the great world round me." One Thousand Gifts Ann Voskamp
"The Lord of Heavens Armies is here among us; the God
of Israel is our fortress." Psalm 46: 11
Reading over these scriptures, thoughts and quotes again I
am reminded of how much they helped me! As my eyes were lifted off of my
myself, my fears and back onto God and what He has and is doing in my life I
was able to rest… *sigh* Isn’t that what so many of us are needing? A good ol’
rest J
As I came to trust in God’s goodness and who He really is I
was able to rest more and more. The Bible as well as Ann Voskamp’s book One
Thousand Gifts played a huge part in changing how I see God.
I highly recommend the book One Thousand Gifts to anyone
that is wrestling with feelings of anxiety, fear or having difficulty trusting
God amidst difficult and possibly extremely hurtful or scary situations. This
book is going to be a part of the GIVEAWAY at the end of this series J Excited to share it
with one of you (deep down wish I could send each of you a copy… maybe one day
God willing J) Ann
Voskamp also has a blog that has also been SO helpful to me! So encouraging!
Here is a link to Ann’s Blog if you are interested in
checking it out:
Here is a link to a recent post on anxiety titled “The 1
Secret to Squashing Anxiety This Year”:
I hope and pray that you have been encouraged and that this
helps you practically in your moments where you are faced with a fear, a belief
or a feeling of anxiety. Love you all and look forward to the next part of the
series on Nutrition; how it effects our emotions and what we can do to help!
If you have any prayer requests – things I can be praying
for you about specifically please feel free to message or email anytime!
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